วันพุธที่ 11 เมษายน พ.ศ. 2555

The Meaning of a Smile - Why do Russians Smile so Seldom?

I think it is deeper in national traditions. Lets' see how it is! I have found a remarkable work in the Internet written by one of the Voronezh University Professor I.A. Sternin. I think he has given a good scientific base to this phenomenon.

He points out 14 distinguishing features of a typical Russian smile:

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1. Smile is Russian transportation is not a sign of politeness.

In American, English, German and Finnish communicative behavior it is. Smiles are primary when greeting or having a polite conversation. Russian writers have pointed out many times that a typical American smile seems non-natural and false to many Russians. They say, "Americans smile as if they are electric lights turned on", "their smile is something chronic", "an American face is generally teeth".

I don't mean to hurt Americans :) I'm trying to defend Russians from those blaming them of non-smiling.

Western smiles greeting person mean pure politeness. The more a person smiles the more friendliness he/she is showing to his/her partner.

Japanese girls at the entry to a absorbing staircase in large supermarkets smile and bow to each buyer - 2500 smiles and bows per day!

Russian population don't smile out of politeness. Visa versa, it is thought about to be bad to smile without any primary reasons. The Russian phrase "he smiled out of pure politeness" implies a negative attitude to the smiling person.

A constant polite smile is thought about a "smile on duty" in Russia and shows people's insincerity, closeness and unwillingness to show real feelings.

2. Russian population do not smile at strangers.

Russians smile only at their fellow guys. That's is why shop assistants never smile at customers (they don't know them personally!:). If a shops-assistant knows a buyer she shall smile at him/her.

3. It is not typical to Russian to give a smile in return.

An American wrote in the "Izvestiya" paper, "I don't know hwy but when looking at Russian convention officers checking our passports and smiling at them we never get a smile in return. When our eyes meet the eyes of some person walking along a street in Russia we never get a smile back." It is true: if a Russian person sees a stranger smiling at him he/she is confident to seek the presuppose of fun. Maybe something in his/her clothes or hairdo makes the gun so cheerful?

4. It is not typical for Russian to smile at a person whose eyes you met with your eyes by chance. Americans smile in such a case but Russians turn off their eyes.

5. Russians don't smile altogether looking at babies or pets. (I think it is a controversial utterance).

6. A Russian smile is a sign of personal attraction.

A Russian smile shows that a smiling person likes you. He/she is very friendly to you. That is why Russians smile only to fellow population because they cannot favor strangers.

7. Russians do not smile when working or doing something serious.

Customs officers do not smile because they are doing their serious business. The same thing is with sellers and waiters. It is a unique peculiarity of a Russian smile. Chase Manhattan Bank has a large note "If your operator didn't smile you tell the doorman and he will give you a dollar!"

Children mustn't smile when studying. Russian adults tell their kids, "Don't smile, be serious at school, preparing home task and when grown ups are talking to you!" One of the most tasteless remarks of a Russian teacher is, "Why are you smiling? Stop it and start writing".

Serving staff has never smile din Russia. Since early times clerks, salesmen, waiters and servants have been polite and courteous but never smiling. Now we have to make a smile a pro requirement to all the aid staff members because it is not gonna appear otherwise:).

8. Russian smile is sincere. It is the expression of either high spirits or a good attitude to a partner.

Russians do not smile without presuppose (for example, to make the mood of a partner better, to make him/her feel pleased or hold him/her). One has to truly like the person he/she is smiling at or be in very high spirits to have the right for a smile.

9. A smile of a Russian person should have a enough reason, which is obvious to others. It gives a person the right to smile from others' point of view. The Russian language has got the unique proverb missing in other languages, "Laughter without reasons is the sign of foolishness". Western mental population are unable to understand the logics of this proverb. A confident German teacher got the following explanation of the proverb, "If a person is laughing without presuppose he has problems with his/her head". He couldn't understand it and asked, "Why does the second utterance effect the first one??"

The presuppose of a smile should be obvious and clear to others. If they don't understand the presuppose or reconsider it insufficient for s smile they may break smiling and make a reproof, "What are you smiling at?"

10. The only worthy presuppose of a smile in Russian transportation is the wealth of a smiling person.

Carnegie's call for a smile arises the following examine among the Russian people, "Why smiling? No money paid, only problems all over, and you say, "smile"..." Thus, for Russians a smile is not an possible part of transportation but a reflection of their conditions, mood and material wealth.

11. It is not typical for the Russian communicational culture to smile in order to cheer up or make others cheer up. A Russian person will hardly smile without obvious wealth or very high spirits.

A confident Japanese documentary about the accident landing showed the chapter with a stewardess smiling at her passengers before the accident landing. After the landing was over she fell down writhed in hysterics. So, she fulfilled her pro duty having calmed down the passengers.

Russian collective belief condemns a smile of self-encouraging, "Her husband has left her but she is smiling", "she has got a great amount of children but she is smiling" and so on. All these phrases condemn a smile of a woman who is trying not to lose courage in a hard situation.

12. In a pure Russian consciousness a smile need a proper time for appearing. It is thought about an independent action, which is very often unnecessary and annoying. an additional one Russian proverb says, "Business takes time, fun takes an hour".

13. A smile should fit the situation from the point of view of the population around.

The commonest situations of Russian communications do not supplementary smiles. population do not smile in a tense situation. They say, "Not a proper time for smiling". It is not thought about good to smile near population having serious problems or troubles (if they others are aware of them of course): illness, personal problems and so on.

14. Russians do not truly distinguish between a smile and laughter. They often mix up these two phenomena.

Very often population say to smiling population in Russia, "What's funny? I don't understand!" or "Have I said something to make you laugh?".

The windup of the author is as follows: the Russians are cheerful and wit in general. It is natural for them not to hide their feelings and moods.

However, everyday life of a Russian person has all the time been a constant struggle and survival; lives of many Russian population were very hard and some serious concern has come to be a constant expression of their faces. A smile in such circumstances is an exception meaning wealth, high spirits. Only a few population can have it altogether (and rather seldom). It is obvious to everyone and very often may arise questions like "hey, why smiling?...", envy and even dislike.

So if you a smile at a Russian person and get no smile in return, don't feel surprised or hurt. reconsider it an exotic national tradition :))

Well, commerce, shop relations and other values of a dissimilar world are gently bringing the habit of smiling "out of pure politeness" and "making a good impression" to Russia. Right are the Chinese, «If you cannot smile you cannot trade well!» :-))

The Meaning of a Smile - Why do Russians Smile so Seldom?

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