Online dating is big business, but is it honest business? I believe the reply is not always. We see the commercials, gorgeous arresting singles for the most part, in cute poses, spouting their signature line. We also see the couples who have made that long sought after life connection, but exactly what is the ration of those who have truly found happy endings?
Each one of the major online dating services has its own formula of doing business. They all offer "free trial memberships" any way there are as one would expect with free offers, clear limitations. Some may allow love seekers to observe pictures; others may only allow matching via profile and prohibit any real palpate such as e-mail between parties until after that first monthly payment. Some services offer deep psychological in depth profiles which take the best part of the day to fill out, others plainly use more general matching methods focusing on cant stands and must haves. Who knows which of these methods are more effective; after all how honest are we with ourselves? in fact no one wants to admit to anger issues, or control issues or anyone negative for that matter. We fill out these forms not as the man we are but as the man we wish we could be. This is not exactly the best way to find the right man if the entire profile is based on a lie.
Japanese School Girls
We promote ourselves hoping to find a buyer and it is the promise of finding one's soul mate that is so hard to resist. That is the key to the success of these services. The reality is that these services continue to exist as virtual meat markets where only prime makes the cut. Prime by my definition would comprise 20 to early thirties, svelte fertile females. Those who fall face of this kind are plainly seen as leftovers, that are picked over by those vultures who can smell their desperation. You've read about the scams, "major online dating assistance sending fake e-mails of interest to lure unsuspecting newcomers into joining", yet despite our reservations many of us take a chance and convince ourselves it will be distinct for us.
There is a profound sadness in knowing that so many are drawn into this vacuum of hope that seems to cut arresting women to dreamy schoolgirls. in fact men are participants on both sides, in dealing with rejection, any way as a woman I can't speak on the male perspective. Love as a company is doomed to fail. Love I believe should come about plainly and almost take you by surprise. It is a process that has its own momentum and should not be confined within a 3 or 30 day membership plan.
Consider the television show "The Bachelor" for instance, where a group of good finding women are brought together to vie for a mate. The mere idea that anyone can fall in love and settle to marry man after a few days together is absorb, yet we watch as these women and men proclaim to have feelings of love after an insanely short period of time. The strangest part of all is that they in fact believe it despite all of the evidence proving that these unions made in prime time seldom last. Is it plainly the promise of love that clouds our judgment or is it our desperation to be desired? The company of love will continue to grow and many will be victims of its deception, after all what's love got to do with it?
The company of Love
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